On Manning-Up!

Man UpRecently, I received some communication that painted a specific picture of what it looked like to “Man Up” as a leader. It was a very inharmonious image. It was very divisive, derogatory (“girlie-men”) and VERY negative. So negative that I wouldn’t quote it here.

I reject the view put forth in that communication. I find the following view to be much closer to the truth and to describing the kind of leader I want to be:

Harmony

The word harmony carries some serious baggage. Soft, namby-pamby, liberal, weak. Men who value harmony aren’t considered macho. Women who value harmony are considered stereotypical. Success is typically defined with words like hard (sell, line, ass). Successful people are lauded for being argumentative, self-interested, disruptive. But those assumptions are the dregs of a culture that celebrates the lone hero who leads with singular ambition all the while damning the sheep who follow him in harmonious ignorance.

No.

Harmony is a springboard. Harmony supports teamwork. And teamwork creates energy. An energy that fuels creativity.

When focusing on harmony, success becomes defined by different terms. Contribution. Dedication. Cooperation.

Harmony takes bravery, an open heart. It takes lying awake at night when one of your co-workers is having a rough patch and dreaming up ways to help.

In the true sense of karma, to achieve harmony, you must always do the right thing with no eye on a reward. The reward will come because there is trust on the other side.

Harmony creates a workplace where you and all the people around you love to be.

- Jack Covert is the head honcho at 800ceoread. Sally Haldorson is the company’s resident wordsmith.

NOTE: Thanks to Seth Grodin for including this nugget in “What Matters Now”

My Ministry Age

85171In the recent issue of Christianity Today Magazine, there is an interesting quiz that helps one determine their “ministry age” by answering a series of 25 multiple choice questions. It was developed by Jimmy Long of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship to foster dialog between younger and older leaders about diverse views and to contribute to better understanding.

I just completed the quiz and my score was 39.

The possible meanings are listed as:

  • Ages 25 – 41 Younger Leaders
  • Ages 42 – 58 Pragmatic Leaders
  • Ages 59 – 75 Traditional Leaders

Which makes me a “Younger Leader” even though I am 55 years old. If you know me, I guess that explains a lot! :-)

What’s your score?

Ways of Knowing

Intuitive Leadership - Embracing a Paradigm of Narrative, Metaphor and Chaos, by Tim Keel

Intuitive Leadership - Embracing a Paradigm of Narrative, Metaphor and Chaos, by Tim Keel

I’m reading a book called “Intuitive Leadership – Embracing a Paradign of Narrative, Metaphor and Chaos” by Tim Keel. In chapter 5, “Being There: grappling with the context of a ‘post’ world” – on page 128, Tim shares this observation:

“As a young Christian, most of what I was taught as “evangelism” was merely apologetics–-a particularly Western way of arguing people into submission by anticipating every possible argument they might come up with and having a rational argument prepared in response… I have found that many Christians, consciously or not, try first to convert postmodern people into a modern, Enlightenment way of thinking before they can share the Good News of Jesus Christ with them. Why? Because we have encoded the gospel in the categories of modernity… [This] … is an incarnational and missional necessity. But the missional context of our world has changed. Postmodern people reject these limited ways of knowing–[because] they leave out too much life and reality. Meanwhile many Christians sit wringing their hands and assume that the God of the cosmos revealed by Jesus Christ is confounded by a postmodern world.”

I found this particular paragraph in the book to resonate strongly with my own experience and outlook on the future. I’m finding the whole book to be like this!

Chapter 5 – The Senior Pastor: Is He Biblical?

I am going to jump ahead in my review of the book Pagan Christianity? by Frank Viola and George Barna, to Chapter 5 which is entitled: The Pastor: Obstacle to Every-Member Functioning. The reasons for doing this are many. The church that I attend is in the midst of a search for a “senior pastor.” I am the son of a “pastor.” My wife is the daughter of a “pastor.” We both come from families with “pastors” in our heritage. Many of my friends and relatives are “pastors.” There are many “pastors” that I love and respect. I have even considered becoming a “pastor” at different times in my life. At other times I have decided NOT to pursue that!

But, I am reminding the reader that I am on a personal journey to discover – if I can – what about the modern “church” is truly biblical, and what is not. This means that I have to put everything on the table ask the question if the “pastor” or “senior pastor” as we have come to understand and practice it, is actually biblical.

Very few would disagree that the “pastor” leader concept is a fundamental, biblical “must have” in the minds of almost every Protestant Christian. And within the evangelical sub-culture of which I have most of my experience, the more specific idea of a “senior pastor” is also considered sacrosanct. It certainly has been for me at earlier times in my life.

But here is the profound irony. There is not a single verse in the entire New Testament that supports the existence of the modern-day pastor! He simply did not exist in the early church. – Pagan Christianity? Page 106

There is only one verse in the New Testament where the word “pastor” is used.

And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers. — Ephesians 4:1

Gulp! Not a very solid foundation for such a closely held “must have” tradition! Evangelicals are not alone. Roman Catholics have made the same mistake with the word priest. The word appears in the NT only three times and in every case it refers to all believers in Christ.

So, what can we learn from the New Testament about a “pastor?”

Barna and Viola point out that the word pastor is plural – pastors. They existed as more than one. The Greek word translated as pastors is poimen, which means shepherds. I think that we can safely assume that this is a metaphor for how they functioned in the church. Surely no one believes they were literally shepherds! If this word is a metaphor, then it does not describe an office or a title. The Ephesians verse simply mentions them, and offers no definition. Let us be clear then that we have provided our own meaning of the word based upon our own culture, and not because we have read it in the Bible.

Viola and Barna go on in this chapter to address and answer Where Did The Pastor Come From?

  • The Birth of One-Bishop Rule – Ignatius of Antioch
  • From Presbyter to Priest – Clement of Rome and Cyprian of Carthage
  • The Role of the Priest – Ambrose of Milan
  • The Influence of Greco-Roman Culture
  • Constantine and Roman Hierarchy
  • Constantine and the Glorification of the Clergy
  • A False Dichotomy – secular vs. sacred
  • The Fallacy of Ordination – Roman civil customs: Gregory of Nazianzus and Chrysostom
  • The Reformation – Luther, Calvin, Zwingli and the Anabaptists
  • From Priest to Pastor
  • The Cure of Souls
  • The Pastor-Driven Church
  • How the Pastoral Role Damages Body Life
  • How the Pastor Damages Himself

In each section, an overwhelming number of footnoted historical evidences, statistics, scholarly opinions and references are provided. You must read this chapter… it is powerful.

Of personal interest was the section on “How the Pastor Damages Himself.” In this section Barna and Viola cite numerous statistics including:

  • 94% of pastors feel pressured to have a perfect family
  • 90% work more than 46 hours per week
  • 81% say they ave insufficient time with their spouses
  • 80% believe their pastoral ministry affects their family negatively
  • 70% do not have someone they consider a close friend
  • 80% are discouraged or deal with depression

I’ll stop on that one…

I agree with Barna and Viola that very few pastors have connected the dots to discover that it is their “office” that causes the underlying turbulence in their lives. “Jesus Christ never intended any person to sport all he hats the present-day pastor is expected to wear. He never intended any one person to bear such a load.”

The authors go on to describe the unique stress the church places upon pastors with the unrealistic expectations, and dictated standards we often place on them. Many factors like this come into play to produce serious pathologies for many such as: loneliness, corruption, artificiality, lack of accountability, political games, and much worse.

I know of one pastor who discovered some of these things fairly early in his “career” and thankfully recognized it and has moved on to a much better fit for his gifts and service. I know of another who has served in several churches over the years, all the while battling serious depression. It has been a few years now since he left his “pastorate” and took a break. Thankfully, God opened up a new door of service opportunity in the church that fits him and his gifts much better.

There are many more personal stories that I am unfortunately aware of that match what Viola and Barna describe. I agree with their conclusion that our modern single-pastor idea has its roots in pagan culture and has no foundation in scripture.

The church at the beginning of the 21st century needs to examine this “tradition” and see if it measures up to God’s Word. If it is found to be lacking and wanting, we need to be mature enough to abandon it and follow a more biblical pattern.

I offer one alternative for consideration… team leadership based upon spiritual gifts. I found a recent article on this topic in Leadership Journal to be very challenging and thought-provoking. Read Next & Level, an interview with Next Level Church leaders in Denver, Colorado, who after a bad experience with personality-based, top-down leadership, took a whole new approach to what is truly The Next Level Church.

Leadership

Theodore RooseveltI have a friend who inserts quotes at the bottom of his emails. This quote was on an email I received from him this morning. I have read it before, but it was striking to me in a new way today.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, and comes short again and again, because there is not effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

Theodore Roosevelt

I believe this is the kind of leadership we need in this country at this time. We have become a nation of politically correct wimps when it comes to facing our enemies. We need men who will stand up, call Evil what it is, and set their face against it. This is what the “Great Generation” did when Nazism and Fascism threatened the world. We must do this again against Islamo-fascism.

Harry Reid is an Idiot

Harry ReidThe term “Idiot” was originally created by the Greeks to refer to people who were overly concerned with their own self-interest and ignored the needs of the community.

Harry Reid stated on April 19th that “The war is lost…” Oh really? View Video

I don’t know about Harry, but I am personally very thankful that there are brave young Americans willing to take the fight to the enemy, rather than to sit back and wait for them to bring their evil, murderous, butchery here. It’s clear to me that our enemy wants to destroy us! Remember 911?

Harry and his band of Democrats want to cut off all support for our troops and force them home by October. Nothing like broadcasting to the enemy… “Just hang on until October, then you’ll be able to take over Iraq and follow the retreating Americans home!”

What could possibly be motivating such self-interested views? Could it be plain old partisan politics? Could Harry and his ilk be playing politics with the lives the Americans who are dying each day to defend our safety and way of life?

I can only draw one conclusion. Harry Reid is by definition, an idiot.